Do you Envy with People's life ?

   Have you ever jealous with people's achievement, activity, life style, ability, relationship and many more . You think their life is perfect moreover you don't see pressure that they have. Sometimes or many times you want to be them since you think, you are going to be happy person in this world . You are not alone . I felt you but i have been able to overcome this case.  Yeah, Sometimes, I want to have what someone's has yet I always think logically, What she or he has . Behind of it . There are pressure, efforts, weakness that they have and I don't want to be like them, I focus on my life again .

   We often see from a good side from someone has, meanwhile we are human . We can not guarantee that our life is always happy .

   Alright , I am going to declare what causes you Envy with People's life .

  Before you jump to tackle this bad emotion ,you suppose to spot, what the things make you Envy with People's life .

1) Social Media

   Hei, You Know, in my point of view, Social Media is a place to double filter our life . We should acknowledge it . 

   For instance, You see in Social Media . People hang out to The cafe every single day and you can not do it because Probably you don't have enough money, enough time and other reasons . But you should know from The Big Picture . Behind the scenes, the person has pressure also.  Probably, From going to the cafe . The person can make money because she or he can be productive in the cafe, Or Perhaps, now the person has problem so that's why she or he always go to the cafe to decrease the pressure that they have . We don't know it .

   You know it's slightly People want to share bad side from their life into Social Media. The rest of them, we just show the best version of our life .

2) Ability

   I often hear from My Friends that they are jealous with someone's ability and want to be like them moreover They said that they are going to be happy person if they have that ability . 

   It is kind of Those People don't accept themselves of The don't love themselves yet actually, behind of the ability . There are a bunch of Efforts that the person has poured into that ability .

   Do you know a big tree? Yeah before the big tree.  It has been ever a small thing . Yeah it is a seed. So, before turning into Big Tree.  There are a lot of effort to make into Big Tree . From watering everyday, Do fertilizing and many effort . So it is same with Someone's ability.

   You suppose think that, if you want to be like them .you should want to do what they have done behind that ability . 

3) Peer Pressure

   Do you know Peer Pressure ? Yeah, Peer pressure is the influence wielded by people within the same social group. It is also the term used to describe the effect this influence has on a person to conform in order to be accepted by the group.

   You can gain peer pressure from your Small Environment or big environment. Because of that you are Envy what they have already since your mind has been filled by their statements .

4) You often being a Place to Vent

   Have you ever been a place to vent ? Perhaps, your friends often talk about what they have, what they do any many more . And you think their life is so gorgeous .

   Hahahah , You has been manipulated by their statements . They hide their weakness, their pressure, their problem and you don't know it .

And Many Things make you Envy with People's life .

 I just want to say that , Envy with People's life is kind of self-destructive Since you don't love yourself moreover you want to be someone else .

You should try to decrease and stop being Envious with what they have, what they do, what they achieve and everything about them. Please, Start From Now, Focus on yourself . Focus on your Portofolio .

   I have some solutions to decrease it based on my experience Since I have been there and I realized that it's not good for me.

1) Knowing Your Strengths and Weaknesses

  By knowing our Personality. We can develop ourselves moreover we don't envy with people's life Since We knew our strengths and our weakness . We just focus on developing it .

   You can start to analyze what's your strength and weakness by giving Questions to you, joining in Soft Skills Class, Joining in Psychology Test .

   It is useful to embody your dreams. You can keep your sanity moreover you try to love yourself .

2) Think Logically

   Everything what they have, it means There are a lot efforts to achieve it . We are human, no one can be happy person all the time . Everyone has their own pressure. You should remember it.

3) Do Self Affirmation

  What we say, it can influence our mind . So start from now, please say positive words . 

I often say that Just Focus on yourself Dian . Because of the statement . I don't want to be like them . Because I know that we have our path .

4) Surround Yourself in Positive People

   Believe or not, When you put yourself into positive People . You are going to get valuable things and you can develop your capability .

   Alright guys, Start From Now, Just Focus on our life moreover Please Think Logically.  Don't want to be someone else because indirectly when you want to be someone else it means you judge God's creatures .

"Knowing yourself is the key success of life"