Which do you prefer having new relationship or having feeling numb to your ex in order to Move on?

 

Everyone has their own version to move on from someone who they really love . For several people need a few years, moments, months yet some of them can move on from their ex don't need time.  I mean yeah they can accept new person to enter their life. But if you ask my opinion about those statements. I am going to choose to have numb feeling to my ex-boyfriend . Why? 

 

Numb means you don't have bad or good emotions with your ex . You don't love him, you don't detest him, you don't revenge on him etc . You just numb when you remember everything happened in the past with him, you truly numb when He / She come to your life again or telling good statements.

Okay, I would like to share some instances to you all .

 

Having numb feeling is the best way to move on . Believe or not, you can try it guys . I know that, to be numb to someone who you really love. It's tough. You have to have a lot of efforts.

 

1) You need time

Nothing is instant.  Everything needs process. You need time to get ample gorgeous evidences to prove that it's enough and you have to walk away 

 

2) Use your logic to analyze everything relate with your ex.

Observe your ex's characters and yours as well, Ask yourself honestly. Is it possible if you and him match ? If the personality or habit of your ex still same . Do you want to accept them? Can you tolerate those things? Ask yourself honestly . If the answer No, you had better walk away .

 

3) Watch the pattern in the relationship.

If the pattern is still same . I mean the circumstances always drag you down . And you think that its toxic relationship and you can't solve those cases . You can try to move on. 

 

4) if it's possible, Tell to your ex about your feeling exactly.

Tell your emotions with your ex . If his answer is not satisfying. Moreover, you think this situation can not be fixed. You can get out of his life .

 

5) Read some articles relate with relationship topic.

The more you learn, the more you get . From reading, you can put the knowledge, you can apply into your life moreover your perspectives are able to change .

 

6) Sharing and Listening to people who have the same situation with you.

Some people love sharing or listening something with someone who truly understand my situation. Believe or not. From having conversation with them can help you to change your mind. Moreover, probably all this time yourself think that you can not move on from someone due to past situations hence you want to back with him again but, after you share and Listen with people who have more experience about the relationship, probably they have the worst experience than you yet they can move on from their ex. From their experience, you can learn and apply into your reality in life .

 

 

7) Think about the future.

Don't put yourself in the short-term happiness . You have to think about the future . If you always put yourself in the short-term happiness it is kind of covering the sadness, due to this case is going to disturb your future life. please if you want to do something , think about your future also . Is it having impact to your future or not .

 

8) Ask yourself honestly.

All this time, he or she truly love you or not . If you think or listen to your ex directly that only you love him, he has already moved on moreover he just want to be friend with benefits with you . Girls, wake up ! You had better move on from him .

 

After all or several those concepts you got . You can numb to your ex . Even though your ex beg you to back to him or saying nice words . You have felt numb.

 

It's different guys, if you have someone to replace his position in your life in order to move on.perhaps, It is going to work for short-term but for long-term I'm not sure . I agree significantly with this statement "if you don't Heal the hurt of your past, you bleed all of your future". 

For several people talked to me, having new relationship is the best way to move on but, based on my perspective is wrong because . 

If the case you still love your ex and then you accept a new person to enter your life in order to move on. You are going to have same pattern, bring same cases in your old situations, compare your ex with new person in your life and sometimes you miss him or her you stalk their social media and starting conversation behind your new partner. I think it's not good . Hence I prefer having numb feeling to my ex because if I feel like having new relationship . I truly move on from my ex and don't bring same pattern again into my new relationship .

 

Anyway guys, everyone has their own version. But being numb is the best way to move on. Because when you numb with your ex, you truly understand that you don't match again with him .