Is it healthy to compare yourself with others?

I know that Comparing ourselves with others is activity that humans often do . It steams from many aspects. It can be our partner in relationship, material, life style, physical , throne, income etc .

Is it healthy if we compare our life with other people's life ?

Alright, I'm gonna make it more specific about the healthy and the unhealthy if we have habit like that . 

For several reasons comparing ourselves with others . It can give advantage for us . Why?

1) If we take inspiration from people's journey .

For instance : there's someone started her business. For several moments she always has low profit even she doesn't have profit yet, she has never given up on her business. She try to be circumspect in making amazing strategies to build her business become live again and now her business earn high profit .

Alright, in this case we can get motivation from her journey. We can compare our struggle to start business with hers . Hence, we stop being disconsolate & craven person although we're in uneasy circumstances to build business .

From this case, we can add more values into our life . We can be more ardor, audacious, avant-garde in our business and many more .

2) To build self-confidence 

In short-term it can give you benefit to yourself .

For instance: if you took the weakness of others and compared them to your strengths.

How do you think you would size up? And are you feeling happy?

Yeah, probably this case can corroborate yourself when you are in lack confidence since you know that other people have weakness also and you have strengths .

Based on my perspective, Anyway, comparing ourselves with others is more unhealthy activity than healthy activity . Why?

1) Always in bad emotions .

When you see your coeval friends have good career and you often see they always get what they dream about . But you are on process to build career and you often fail to get what you want . When you compare your achievement with theirs . You are feeling blue, resentful, adversity and you think that what you have done is meaningless .

2) Judge God's creäture.

When you follow beauty-standard. It's like in Indonesia . People have perspective about woman is beautiful, if she is having straight nose, slim body, tall body, white skin, white teeth and because of that . Your brain is influenced people perspective so that's why you think that you are not beautiful because you don't have all the category about that . You are not grateful with God's creäture . You are not confident to have countenance which is so different with beauty-standard.

3) Think that you don't have amazing strengths.

When you are too focus on people's achievement . You forget to focus on your own journey .you denigrate you're as you can't get what precious things that people have. You think that you don't have strengths which you can corroborate for developing yourself.

If you can analyze your problems & more focus on your own journey . You are gonna understand that we are human . Everyone has different weakness, strengths, privilege, circle, purpose in life and many more.  

It's not fair if we compare ourselves with others.

After we can spot the advantage & disadvantage of comparing ourselves with others . 

Here's the things to overcome this issue .

1) Focus on your own journey .

Figure out your strength, weakness , purpose, goals, what the things you like, what values that you have and everything about yourself . When you know about those things and you want to develop yourself . You don't have time to compare yourself with others.

2) Being grateful wherever you are.

Sometimes life is conundrum. When we made plan A but you got Z. However everything happened for reason . Although, sometimes we don't know the reason . But being grateful can make you are happier .

3) Don't open social media too much .

We are living in digital era . I think in social media ample people double filter their life. They just post the best thing of their version . We are often credulous about it . When you often scroll social media too much and you think they're happiest and perfect person . It's unhealthy .

Somehow, we are just human. Comparing each other is one of normal activity yet we can try to be person is more focusing on ourselves . Because when we are more knowing about ourselves is the best key of happiness .

"Compare ourselves with others is like looking at a house throy a keyhole. You only see part of the picture, your view is obscured and you can't make out the finer details".

-diansariislamy-