When you should Walk away from someone's life ?

I know that when you really love someone ,You manipulate your mind . I would say that everything is blind because you have never tried to use your logic to think , basically when you analyze everything related with someone who you really love. You are miserable.You only hide sadness with short-term happiness .

 

Alright I am going to help you to analyze your mind . And spot everything that you hide all this time. 

 

1) He often let down yourself

For instance : He often throw shit words, I mean like : you are so fat, you are ugly, you are short whatever it is kinda devastate your confidence. 

 

2) He often compare yourself with other girls .

For instance : From physical, character, career whatever it's kinda offend yourself .

 

3) You often feel blue

For instance : when you play social media and you see someone's social media who you feel as a rival in your relationship. because when you see her social media , you feel unworthy person, you feel really ugly and you are bashful with your Physical .

 

4) You often overthinking

For instance : As he often drag you down by throwing shit words, you are really afraid of losing him, you don't want to have nightmare that he loves the girl .

 

5) He said that he just want to be Friend with benefit with you .

For instance : just communicate with him, hang out with him , do silly thing with him but without clear commitment . Please walk away from his life ,girl . You deserve better . 

 

6) He doesn't support your career .

For instance : He often look at you down, think that you are gonna fail , tell to you that you are not good enough to have this job . Whatever it's.

 

7)When you need him, he doesn't want beside you .

For instance : He doesn't want to listen your problem, he doesn't want to accompany you etc but you always do those things to him .

 

And many more case . Start from now, Learn to analyze your mind. Ask yourself honestly.

 

Alright, I want to tell you . What disadvantage for long-term .

 

1) He forces you to be like him.

He always tell her hobby with you in fact you don't understand about it. When he tell everything about his hobby. You feel like daft girl because you can't create fun conversation with him.

 

2) You are lack confidence.

Because you often get shit words from him, you are insecure with your Physical , ability, charai everything that you have . You never be grateful .you always think that you are shit girl. Because of that you want to be like other people but basically you don't realize that no one is perfect . Especially in social media, many people double filter their life .

 

3) you lose yourself .

You just show your strength in front of him, you try to hide your weakness because you are really afraid of losing the person . 

I would say that "Don't change yourself in order to get someone's attention or making him to stay with you, someone who really want you, he is going to accept your weakness and doesn't want to change yourself but he will grow together with you .

 

4) you are gonna difficult to move on.

I think, move on needs time . When you always put yourself in his circle . It's tough to get out of his zone . Because everything saved in your memories. You have invested your time, energy, feeling, whatever it is . It's really uneasy. So that's why. Have clear decision !!!

When you commit to yourself that you have to get of his life start from now . It's gonna help you than you deny to get of his circle . I would say that "Don't stay in circle make you feel happy for short-term but sad for long-term " .

 

5) You have blocked appropriate someone to enter your life .

Because, all this time you think he is the one, you too focus on him so that's why you ignore someone is more appropriate with you to enter your life. I don't wanna say the best one, because no one is perfect. Everyone has their own weakness .

 

6) Wasting everything .

You have invested your feeling, money, time, energy etc with someone who doesn't same vision with you . I want to say that "get out of his life right now, you deserve better" 

 

Tips for getting out of someone's life .

 

1) Cut off communication .

Cut off communicate with him is the best way. I know it's tough, but it's the best way. Stop replying his message, stop replying his calling, don't calling him, don't send messages him. I know it's kinda bite the bullet .

 

2) Avoid to meet him .

Don't accept his offering to meet you, don't go to the place in which is gonna meet him . 

 

3) Avoid his friends or people who bring memory about him .

Try to avoid everything about him untill you can be netral person.

 

4) Don't stalking his life 

If you miss him, don't stalking his social media, don't do this one . Ignore his development .

 

5) Don't put yourself in his life again due to sweet words that he throw .

Remember, if you think the pattern is gonna repeat again. It's useless, girl . Please wake up and walk away! Use your brain , don't bring your feeling .

 

6) Pray to God .

Pray to God to help you find a peace in your life, to decrease the emotions related with him , to help you to get appropriate person .

 

7) Surround with positive people

Join organization / community that can escalate your capability . Because of that you are gonna meet prodigious man . Perhaps you can get the real one.  

 

8) Add new activities into your life 

Perhaps, all this time you leave your favorite things that you want to do. Start from now, you can do it . Or you figure out the things can help you to grow . Do those new things .

 

9) Read self-development article.

I would say that, self-development is necessary knowledge that you have to learn. After you have read , try to apply into your life .

 

10) Meditate 

Do meditate is kinda activity to engage with yourself, to empower your emotions and many more benefits from doing meditation .

 

11) Don't look for someone to replace him quickly .

I would say that, "If you don't Heal the hurt of your past, you bleed all of your future" which means, you are gonna do same mistake in your new relationship. I want to suggest that love yourself first and love others .

 

12) Don't talk about him to people .

Because, when you talk about him . It means you try to remember the moments . Don't do it . You had better focus on developing yourself .

13) Don't have expectation to back with his new version .

I would say that expectation is gonna kill you . Don't expect someone changes, it is not healthy . If you think that everything which he does, if you can't tolerante Just let him go from your life because it's not good for you in the long-term circumstances.

 

Somehow, Different person different way to solve problem , you can figure out the best way to help you to get out of someone's life. 

 

Don't love someone is too much,As something is too much is not good. You can learn to love yourself first than love others , so that's why you don't put your happiness key in someone's pocket, and when you spot the characteristic of unhealthy relationship hence you can be easy to get out of the circle without doubt .

 

 

 

"No need to change yourself in order to make someone stay in your life . If someone really want you, the person is going to accept your weakness & grow together with you "
-Diansariislamy-