How to Spot insecurity ?

Insecurity is an emotion. It steams from uncertainty or anxiety about something.

For several people are insecure as they think :

1) They are an unworthy person.

For instance they are in relationship. Their partner is more valuable from career and they tryna compare their income with their partner . And they have insecure that their partner will cheat on someone else & find a someone who has higher income than them . But in fact their partner love them just the way they are.

2) Triggered by their circle .

For instance they live in people who majority have job as civil servant. Hence they have peer pressure . They have to apply job as civil servant also . They want to apply that job and they are insecure if they are gonna fail to apply this job. They think that they are daft person because they can't be like people in their circle but literally every job is awesome , you don't have to be like them.

3) Past experience 

For instance when they are senior high school . They have bad mistake it's kinda tricking thing. And they got bully from their friends at the moment. So when they are college student . They are insecure, they are really afraid of bullying . But basically everybody has ever made mistake and we are no need to judge people's mistake because we're not perfect human. And it's okay we have ever got bully but it doesn't mean that we are gonna get it again because we live in different circumstances . 

4) Future

For instance they are college student and then they are gonna graduate for 1 year later and they are insecure about their future how it looks like. 

And many more aspects can make people are insecure .

Somehow, insecurity can be overcome .

1) Read more articles related with self-development .

From reading, we can be more knowledgeable person so we can know how to empower positive thoughts in ourselves .

2) Have wider perspective about life .

If one solution is not working. Use another one to solve it .

3) Set-boundaries 

Your happiness is your business and vice versa you don't need to think about people's happiness . If they don't like what you are deed . Just ignore if it's toxic .

4) Don't expect .

If you have goals just do the strategies to embody them but if you fail it is normal . Don't push yourself too much as your brain's gonna burst .

Anyway, insecure happened because of the way you think about something . I know we are human, sometimes we can't control our mind but I believe that if we want to practice how to stop it, it's gonna work well .

it's not that you are bitter your friends have achieved amazing things .it's that you are annoyed at yourself because you are not .
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